Online Relationships

infiniteLaws · Joined: 27 May 2006 Posts: 5

I'm sure many of you have noticed the continuous online dating agency ads across forum boards, search engines, and mass emails.Are these ads distracting to you? Why are they distractions and have you responded to online dating ads before? Do you believe the face-to-face dating scene will be obsolete in the next 5 years?

olivine · Joined: 06 Jun 2006 Posts: 16

Personally, it's not a distraction. It's like any other advertising you see posted. I do register in online dating services, but I choose the ones that I find wholesome. Most websites that I got in are christian dating sites. However, I still believe in the authenticity of an old school dating because people can anytime fake their identities online.

NicoleJLeBoeuf · Posted: Wed Jun 07, 2006 8:32 am Post subject:

I tend to distrust dating services of any type, because too many of my friends who have tried them are doing so because "must! find! mate!" and "don't wanna die an old maid!" Sort of this desperation that causes them to put up with all sorts of issues that really ought to signal that this is a bad match-up. And then they get their hearts broken again and again.

I'm sort of old-fashioned and new-agey about dating, all at the same time--I really think that if you just be yourself, do the things you like to do whether online or in the physical world, move in the social circles you enjoy, you'll end up making friends of a like mind, and one of those friendships (or more, if you're so inclined) may blossom into a long-term relationship. And if you feel yourself to be a whole person whether single or coupled, you won't pressure yourself so hard to put up with someone who isn't right for you, because you won't see being single as this big bad evil fate to be avoided at all costs.

But that might just be me doing what we all so often do, taking my own personal experience as a template for "how things should be done." (It's how I met my husband. Met him at high school "nerd camp" where he was one of many dear friends I met; stayed in touch, recognized we were falling in love, got married. Awww.)

Maybe it's also my distaste for what looks to me like a meat market--people meeting each other with the sole purpose of deciding whether they want to start a sexual relationship with each other, and "just friends" being seen as some sort of failure.

I'd be interested in hearing success stories about online-or-otherwise dating services. That might help me balance my current views, which I admit are a little hardline anti-dating-service. Anyone?
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ica · Joined: 14 Jun 2006 Posts: 11 Location: Philippines

i have accounts with several online dating service websites. at first, i enjoyed checking out the guys and sending them messages but after awhile i lose interest because i realize how shallow it is. there are a lot of perverts, people who are just there for cyber sex.

Selenia · Joined: 15 Jun 2006 Posts: 5

While I don't mind the advertising (you can just ignore them anyway), I don't know think online dating will replace face to face hook ups. It's just too important to really see how you feel around the other person, and see the little things like their body language, their scent, their unique heat - that kind of thing.

With that said, I did end up with my boyfriend through the Internet - but it was through an online game, not a dating service. I think that way it didn't have the urgency. I wasn't playing the game looking for love, I was just playing it to have fun Smile