IS LIFE EASIER AS A CHILD?

myca · Joined: 10 Sep 2006 Posts: 143

Ever had the grown up blues? I think back to when I was a kid and wonder if life wasn't easier back then. You don't have to worry about bills, or finding a job. All I had to do was go to school, come home, do my homework. Everything else was set. I had food, clothes, housing, an allowance. It seemed easier back then. It's funny because when you are a kid all you can think of is how much fun you're going to have as a grown up. You crave that independence and once you are finally there you see that its a lot harder than you imagined. It comes with tough decisions and bigger responsibilities.

Is there a balance? Can you be a kid and a grown up at the same time?
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Knowledgeable · Joined: 25 Sep 2006 Posts: 5 Location: Connecticut

Yes, there is a balance.
It's called a teenager.
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blogger · Joined: 27 Sep 2006 Posts: 5 Location: San Jose

When I was a kid, I couldn't wait to be a teenager. Then I couldn't wait to be a "grown up". Now that my wish has been fulfilled, I really can't ask for anything more Very Happy

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xeric · Joined: 29 Sep 2006 Posts: 53

love your mom,

u will always remain kid.

rest i dont know...coz---we have to live up with the time...we can d o nothing.

everything has their own related time...childhood, teenage, now grewed..!!
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BlackGarden · Joined: 05 Oct 2006 Posts: 10

Knowledgeable: You'd think being a teenager was the balance, but being a teenager really wasn't that nice a time in most people's lives. You suddenly begin to find the opposite (or indeed the same) sex attractive, but you have spots and you feel ugly so you don't feel like they'd ever find you attractive. Your hair goes greasy, your body does confusing things, your hormones wreak havoc with your mood, and into the bargain a lot of kids get bullied too.

And when you get bullied as a teenager, you never see the light at the end of the tunnel. You don't realise that school isn't the be-all and end-all. You don't realise that before you know it you'll be leaving school, wondering where the time went, and you'll be able to pick and choose who you want to stay in touch with. As a teenager being bullied, you never think of it like that, you just see day after day of being bullied, no end to it.

I think the balance is accepting your responsibilities as an adult, but taking full advantage of your holidays and weekends and letting yourself go a bit Smile

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smelzer77 · Joined: 28 Oct 2006 Posts: 8 Location: Carthage Missouri

I would have to agree with you. I used to think it would be easier to be a child rather than an adult. Seems sometimes like they have no worries in the world. Unlike us adults we are constantly stressed over bills, work, kids, everything and anything. I have a young daughter and see what she goes through. I would have to change my mind about wishing to be a child. Children today are raised differently than I was at a child. Kids are alot more mean now. Learning hate and so much more at early ages. I am glad to be an adult. At least for this point in time.

aima · Joined: 21 Oct 2006 Posts: 36 Location: Philippines

For me I am vey glad for being grown up now. Because I learn what's my responsibilities and what leads to me in the future. Yet being a child no worries and obligations to face but you could not experience the real meaning of life.

Shelley159 · Joined: 15 Jul 2008 Posts: 5

Yeah but could u imagine not being able to go have a beer when you wanted to? We may get the "grown up blues" but its just because you want what you cant have. It may sound fun just to play, go to school and clean your room but really we all know it'd suck!!!

krishna009 · Joined: 17 Jul 2008 Posts: 6

Being a child is nice a there will be not much responsiblites in our hands but also we cannot enjoy all other things where a teenager can enjoy it.

Maven29 · Joined: 25 Jul 2008 Posts: 6

There is a way to forever be a child but get to be a grownup. It is to be a HUSBAND! I do joke to everyone, that I have two children. One is 2 years old and one is 37! I am just kididng, but isnt it true that there seems to be one partner in every relationship that does more of the responsible "adult" stuff. You know if you are them, OR NOT. The person who knows when the mortage payment gets auto deducted, or who your insurance agent is, or why the soccer practice alternates between fields or why you don't buy the cheap tuna or what a good CD rate lock is? My DH doesnt know any of this stuff! So I get to be the grownup and he gets to be the kid. There is a good side to this, though, in that he keeps us lighthearted, and young and balances me, who is more driven to a schedule and meticulous about money and responsibility. They say opposites attract, and I think it is a good thing!

Maybe I am a rare case, but I recall being a child and never wanting to grow up. I had it MADE. Go to sleep to the sound of adults talking with no concern about what they were talking about. Just that they were there, I must be fine. My son has that now. He is so easy going, just goes with the flow. He has no idea where we are going most of the time, everything is a new adventure, but he goes along, figuring if both Mom and Dad are here, it must be fine! I wish I could keep him this way forever, but I know he will grow up. I think being a teenager is and was the worst, both for the teen and the parent. So much potential that can go awry! So much stress being in that in-between state of child/adult hood.

I don't want to fall into that thing our parents and parent's parents did where we tell our kids how easy they have it. You know, the "we used to have to walk to school in the snow uphill" stories. I do find myself doing it now, as my son demands I change the channel. I think, when I was a kid, there were only 3 channels! Children do have it so easy, always have and even easier today. But they won't realize it til they are old.......er.... Like US! For now, let em enjoy their ignorance.

mrae · Joined: 23 Jul 2008 Posts: 23

I believe it depends on what kind of childhood you had. I would not want to be a child again. There were a lot of troubles and pressures between grades, peer pressure, trying to fit in, etc.

However I would like to live through my twenties again. Ahh to be twenty again and know then what I know now would be ideal! Question is would I be able to do things differently? Rolling Eyes

CruxisKnight · Joined: 27 Jul 2008 Posts: 5

I think everyone's a kid inside. Children are kids without anything to worry about except school and those sort of things. Adults are kids who have jobs, responsibilities, bills to pay, people to feed, other tasks to accomplish, etc. That's why adults are so cranky. It all takes getting used to.

yorik · Joined: 30 Jul 2008 Posts: 5

I often reminisce about those years of innocence and naivite. I was so free of burdens. I was so pure as snow. I try to keep a little of a kid in me so I could get up every day with a smile.

Ria · Joined: 02 Aug 2008 Posts: 7

Even though children do not have bills to pay, their lives are not easy. I look at my kids and want to grab them up and protect them from the daily things they have to face at school from bullies and other dangers.

Many adults forget what it was like to be a child and have no control on their own lives. Children get very little say so in how their lives are run. The parents choose where they live, what they wear, where they go to school, if they attend church, etc. Add to that the stress of their own jobs, that is right, kids have jobs. My kids get up for school before I have to get up for work. They are gone before I have to leave and they arrive home at the same time I do. Furthermore, they have homework when they get home and sit down and work some more. If your kids are like mine, they have chores as well. In addition, while they get summer off, they are limited by the availability of me and my husband as to what they can do and when.

I had a good childhood and great high school years, but if you invented a machine that could shove me back in time and change my age I would send you packing. Yes, I have bills and other responsibilities, but everything that is going on in my life was by my choice, the rent I pay I chose, the car payment, I chose, my job, I chose. I am very happy with my choices and very rarely look back with anything other than a thought about old friends.

selana · Joined: 04 Aug 2008 Posts: 5

My daughter is in her last year of school and regularly tells me she doesn't want anything to change. She gets to go to school and see her friends, she loves her teachers and she enjoys her life. She is afraid that once she leaves school she'll drift away from a lot of her friends. It sounds to me like she thinks it will be easier to stay where she is than to grow up. But, it hasn't always been like this. She moved schools in year 11 due to being very unhappy and depressed in her other school. In that school she suffered bullying - but not from kids, from teachers. The problem for kids is that they have no real power to change things. Whether or not it's easier being a kid than an adult has got an awful lot to do with your circumstances. It will be different for everyone.

Tat007 · Joined: 05 Aug 2008 Posts: 7

It seems easier to be a child from an adult point of view. But childhood has its own challenges: not being invited to someone's birthday or worrying about your parents' reaction to a bad mark at school can be a real drama. Ask any child and most will tell you they can't wait to grow up.

JohnDoe · Joined: 01 Sep 2008 Posts: 5

Of course life's easier when you are a kid.You don't really have any worries.No bills to pay,just play all the time.

princejerome2008 · Joined: 04 Sep 2008 Posts: 6

Childhood stays for me a time of no identity, independence, and freedom which are the most important qualities of life in my opinion.

I've been homeless twice as an adult and went through many financial hardships.. but I never wish to return to that period of walking on eggshells around parents and people restricting my freedom.. finding myself constantly day dreaming just for the day my ideas have meaning to others.

I think i probably would feel different about it if my childhood was different with some other people as "administrators" but when I see teens now that come to me for a place to stay or tell me the hardships they face with their parents, I hardly ever regret being an adult with my life in my own hands.

society treats children like slaves or property of parents, and its sad, because very few people can handle the corruption that comes with such power over another life.

nycvegas · Joined: 07 Sep 2008 Posts: 5

Actually I believe life as an adult is more rewarding. Yes you have to find work, yes you have to pay bills, but its worth it when you wake up to the man you love everyday and see your kids eating cheerios on the kitchen table in bunny shoes. It is definitely worth all the efforts. Very Happy

a.w.omyn · Joined: 12 Sep 2008 Posts: 7